How do I touch well?

Have you ever considered this question?

What about these questions?

• Who is touching who?
• Am I giving or receiving the touch that’s happening?
• How do I know if my touch is welcome?
• How do I know if my touch feels good?
• What do I do if I don’t like how someone else is touching me?
• How can I communicate all of this without hurting feelings?

Touch can be so simple and comforting, but it can also feel confusing and strange. It might be a relief to know that it doesn’t have to be awkward.

Let’s make touch more comfortable for you. I’m keen to offer an experience that will teach you how to connect through the sense of touch, learn to touch with more clarity about your intentions, and learn to feel pleasure through your hands. I have a feeling you’re really curious about how to better access your body’s ability to feel and experience sensation and pleasure. And you’d probably like to improve your skills in offering comfort and pleasure through touch.

Have you ever wondered:

• why you’re not comfortable receiving, and how to become comfortable with it?
• about what your intentions are when you’re touching?
• what someone else’s intentions are when they’re touching you?
• how to touch your children and teach them what healthy touch is?
• how to tell the difference between touch for the sake of touch, with friends, and what makes it erotic touch?
• how to better communicate the kind of touch you’d live to give and receive in your love life?

The Details: Connecting Through Touch is an experiential, gentle course which will teach you:

• how to feel pleasure in your hands
• how to understand the difference between giving, receiving, taking and allowing
• how to communicate the difference and get clear on what you and the other person are doing, and want to do
• how to deeply engage with not only the sense of touch, but also the senses of sight, sound, smell and taste

This course is for you if:

• you’ve felt yourself confused or frustrated about the quality of touch you give and receive
• you want to feel more comfortable with touching
• you want to learn better boundaries around touch
• you want to learn how to communicate what kind of touch you want with more grace and comfort
• you’re seeking an in-person experience
• you’re interested in untangling the ways in which giving and receiving get mixed up
• you want hands-on practice
• you want to have fun

This course is not for you if:

you want a best practices methodology course that is based on textbooks and reading

Extra details – this course is:

• fun!
• experiential – you’ll get hands-on practice, but you always have the choice to sit out of an exercise
• starts where you’re at – whether you consider yourself a beginner or advanced, you’ll get a lot out of it
• fully clothed – there is no erotic touch in this workshop
• draws from the work of Dr. Betty Martin – read about the five day workshop I took with her here.

What to bring

• comfy clothes to wear
• an open mind
• your lunch (or money to buy lunch downtown Duncan)

You will leave with

• a clear sense of how to touch well
• experiences of receiving pleasure through your hands
• confidence that you can tell the difference between giving and receiving
• little exercises you can continue to practice at home
• confidence in your ability to communicate how to touch as well as what you do and don’t want

Options for deepening

This workshop is a shortened version of The Sensorium! which is a two day workshop focusing on all the senses. If you’d prefer to sign up for The Sensorium!, click here. Also, Dr. Betty Martin is one of my teachers, and the innovator behind much of the material taught here. To learn more and go even deeper, visit her website.